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Don’t you miss me a little?

Posted on: December 5, 2011

Every morning I drop my son off at the babysitter on my way to work.  I bring him into her house, get him out of his jacket, hat and mittens and hand him over.  He gladly goes to her, smiles and waves goodbye to me as I leave.  No tears, no fussing, no separation anxiety.  This is great, right?  If he had separation anxiety it would be a lot harder to leave him every day. How would I be able to leave him when he was crying because he didn’t want mommy to leave?  Seeing tears flow down his cute round face breaks my heart.  So, I should be very grateful he doesn’t do that, right?  Well, here’s a little secret: part of me actually wishes he did fuss when I leave.  Not a lot, just a little…

When your baby fusses when you leave them, it lets you know just how much they miss you, need you and how much they love you.  Even though you don’t want them to be upset, it’s kind of a good feeling.  Everyone likes to feel needed, loved, and missed.  Especially by their children.  While you want them to be happy and do well at the babysitter’s house, there’s this small part of you that screams, “Miss me!  Just cry for me for a second. Please!  Or, at least pretend like you’re going to miss me today”.  It seems insane to think that way (and, maybe it’s just me and it is insane) but that’s what happens.   The feeling just creeps up on you as you wave goodbye to your baby and walk down the sidewalk to your car.  And, even though your child is happy and excited to start a new day and play with his little friends at the sitters house, you walk away feeling a little sad. 

I always look forward to the end of my work day.  Not because I don’t like my job (I do like my job), but because it means I get to go pick up my little man.  I love picking him up because I walk in the door of the babysitters house and he gives me a HUGE smile and squeals in delight when he sees me.  And, there it is.  There is the “I’ve missed you mommy” that I have been waiting for.  It makes me feel warm and fuzzy all over.  I love picking him up, holding him tight and feeling his tiny hands pat my shoulder as he hugs me.  There is no other feeling quite like it.

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3 Responses to "Don’t you miss me a little?"

Exactly! He is so secure in your love and the knowledge you will be back so he can enjoy his day. And, you obviously hit a homerun on the choice of a sitter and play situation. And, yes, that grin when he sees you and welcoming hug make it all worth while. Know you are preparing him to go into the world, secure in your love, even at his age.

Yes, his sitter is great. He likes them a lot and the other kids who are there, so that is encouraging.

I totally get you :). It’s nice to feel needed by the babies!

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