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The best advice I received when pregnant

Posted on: January 25, 2016

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It seems like almost all of my friends are either pregnant right now or just had a baby. I have at least six friends who are currently pregnant and five who have had babies within the past four months. And so, as expected, all of our conversations turn to all things baby.

In all this talk, I’ve been reminded of my own pregnancies. I remember during my first pregnancy everyone wanting to give me advice. They’d offer advice on what the best baby products were, how to get my little one to sleep through the night, remedies for nausea and all the aches and pains of pregnancy, and so much more. But the best word of advice I received was not about how to take care of myself or my soon to arrive little bundle of joy. It was about my husband.

A good friend of mine gave me this advice:

“Love on your husband. He will feel neglected with all focus on your little one. Give him a kiss each day…leave him a note. Make sure he knows you still love him.”

When she first told me this, I didn’t quite fully understand how important these words would be. Since this was my first baby, I had no concept of what life would be like when my little man was born. Once Giovanni was born, it didn’t take long for me to realize why she had given me this precious pearl of advice.

A new baby changes everything, to say the least. As a new mother, you are completely focused on fulfilling the needs of your child; that tiny little baby who needs so much care, love, and attention. Your baby quickly becomes your first priority and everything else seems less important. Family and friends come to visit and see the baby and fuss over this new little bundle who has made such a big splash on the scene. All the attention is on the baby and sometimes mom and dad get swallowed up in the background. Or, really, daddy is the one who is put on the back burner.

You see, as a new mother, you still receive plenty of attention. Everyone asks you how the baby is. How is he eating, how is he sleeping, how you are recovering physically (especially if you’ve had a C-Section), are you tired…and your husband can sometimes get lost in the shuffle and the excitement of all things baby.

That’s why it’s so important to remember those priceless words I received…

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Tell your husband each day how grateful you are to have him by your side.

Tell him what a wonderful father he is.

Tell him how much you appreciate all those times he gets up in the middle of the night to change the baby’s diaper.

Tell him you appreciate when he takes care of the baby so you can take a nap.

Tell your husband how much it means to you when he makes dinner so you can get a little more rest.

Tell him each day how much you love him and how important he is to you.

Tell him…

 

 

 

 

 

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6 Responses to "The best advice I received when pregnant"

Wise words and very true x As the mother of 4 I remember Jeff saying he felt as if he wasn’t really needed – we had 2 teenage sons by the time I had 3rd born – and they very much took over the role of big brothers, changing nappies etc – they were amazing – but Jeff was needed – very much needed too x

Yes! We always need our husbands and need to let them know just how much. Thanks for the comments!

I need Jeff to put the rubbish bins out! 😁

The transition to being parents is hard on the marriage, too. It’s worthwhile for spouses to talk about that ahead of time and realize they’ll come out of those first difficult months even stronger than they were before.

Very true. It can be so hard, with all the focus on your children, to find time for each other which is about something else. So important, though.

Great reminder. My husband really stepped up to the plate with our first child, and I don’t know if I showed him enough gratitude. For this next one, I will change that!

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