Secretsofmommyhood

Why We Need our Mom Tribe

Posted on: April 13, 2017

 

When we first moved to South Carolina I felt a bit lonely. I had been excited to move here, but I didn’t know anyone. I had no friends and no family. My husband would go off to work at his new job and I would be at home with my youngest son feeling left out and alone.

Moving from a place where I had lived for 11 years – where my friends where – to a brand new place where I didn’t know anyone, made me feel isolated. Not only did I leave my friends behind, I left behind a job I loved, teaching theatre classes. I didn’t have any of that here. I found myself missing our old home and life very much.

Realizing my desperate need for connection, I decided to give the mom’s group at our new church a try. I remember sitting in that first meeting and “sizing up” the other women in the room. I wondered to myself if I would be able to connect with any of them and become friends. Good friends.

It was then I met Krista. We talked that first meeting and seemed to connect right away. We exchanged phone numbers. I was hopeful we’d become friends but also a bit skeptical, feeling unsure. I mean, how could anyone compare to the friends I left behind? But, I needed friends so I put that fear aside, stepped out of my comfort zone, and took a leap of faith.

That was one of the best decisions I’ve made.

Krista and I became fast friends and close friends. Turned out, she had only just moved here six months before me and was also looking for other mom friends. It was through Krista and our church that I soon met my wonderful Mom Tribe.

Me and my Mom Tribe

I recently read a quote by Matt Nathanson that really resonated with me. He said,

“We need each other so much. Going through this world without a village of people you can love and be loved by is not what we are made to do. I have had such a battle all of my life connecting and staying connected, getting out of my way and being vulnerable and open. But we are never better than when we are together. We are at our best in community…we are capable of love and empathy and sweetness and connection, so much deeper than we even understand.” 

He is absolutely right. We need our mom friends and they need us.

We are all in this journey of motherhood together. It’s a difficult but rewarding journey that may batter us as we walk the path, but with our mom tribe around us, we carry on. That support and love from our friends, that solidarity we experience, it’s what keeps us going day to day.

So surround yourself with other moms; women who can relate to your current life journey and who will support you and lift you up through the good times and bad.

Find your Mom Tribe and keep them close.

 

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