Life Before and After Children

Posted on: September 6, 2017

I love being a mom. As difficult as it can be, the rewards far outweigh the hard times. But there are those days when I think back to what it was like before children. I see my friends who don’t have children yet and sometimes it feels like they have so much more freedom than I do. As much as I love my children, and wouldn’t change being a mom for anything, there are those times when I sometimes (just sometimes) miss my pre-children days.

5 Things I Miss From My Pre-Children Days



I LOVE traveling. Before our kids were born my husband and I had the chance to travel to Italy, Puerto Rico, Germany, and Austria. It was wonderful! We could just plan a trip and go. No worrying about how the kids would do on an airplane, planning kids activities instead of ones we’d really enjoy, packing lots of extra “stuff,” or finding a babysitter so we could go on a trip ourselves. So much easier than now. I’m guessing we won’t get to Europe again until our kids are in High School; maybe college. We’ve been able to take a couple of small trips on our own, but nothing like we used to. Vacations take on a whole new meaning with kids!

Girls Night

Before I had children, I used to be able to go out with my girlfriends at the drop of a hat. It was so easy. My girlfriends and I would go out at least once a month, if not more. I’d also spend a lot of time at my friends houses and just hang out. Not so much anymore. Now girls nights require a lot of planning ahead of time. We have to make sure everyone’s husbands are available to watch the kids, or that we have a babysitter. No more just popping by a friends house and staying for a few hours on a whim. Now there are kids in tow and each get together has become a scheduled play date. I’m glad I do still get to hang out with my girlfriends though. Things just look a little different now.

Date Nights

I can’t remember the last time my husband and I had a date night. Before our children came along, we would go out quite frequently. Dinner, movies, out with friends, the park, picnics…so many options! And we could just go whenever we felt like it. Nowadays, that doesn’t happen as much. Now it’s a matter of having the financial means to go (kids are expensive!) and being able to find a babysitter. So, unfortunately, date nights don’t happen quite as frequently as we’d like them to.

Flexible Schedule

Before having children, I had a very flexible schedule. Yes, I had to work, but if my husband and I wanted to go out on any given night, we could. If we wanted to plan a quick weekend getaway, we’d go. I was able to teach acting classes and direct shows with no conflicts. It was so easy…Not so much anymore. Now there isn’t only my schedule to think about, but my kids schedules. School, after school activities, sports, play dates…so much more to work around! Life is much busier and more complicated now. It’s not as easy to just pick up and go anymore.

Me Time

I don’t even know what this phrase means anymore. Being a mom is a 24/7 job. It’s nonstop, around the clock work. Add on top of that my actual job(s), school, play dates, house cleaning, church, etc., and there is virtually no “extra” time leftover. These days, “me time” consists of a trip to the grocery store by myself. Or, if I’m lucky, a trip to Target by myself (now that’s Heaven!).

I do have to say though, that while I may miss these things, life wouldn’t be the same without my precious boys. I love them to pieces and wouldn’t trade them for all the me time in the world!


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